Updated: Sep 11, 2020
Show of hands, how many of you feel like you need to be in control, but often feel like everything is out of control?
You lay out your week, you do the damn thing, go to work, make sure everyone is fed and clothed and somewhat clean AND that they're where they're supposed to be when they're supposed to be there. Plus you never stop wiping. Always wiping everything ALL THE TIME. And then at the end of the day, you sit down for 5 seconds just to catch your breath and slam a glass of wine, wondering how long it's going to continue to pile up and why the fuck you're still living this way.
Word. Me too. We put so much emphasis on getting everything done and checking things off our to-do list that we forget to take a second to stop and breathe in everything that is happening right now, and BE GRATEFUL for it. But that's just it, that is all we have to do to regain the "control" that we so desperately desire. So why is it so hard?
Because we're addicted to controlling all the little bullshit that doesn't really matter, constantly striving for perfection. The way the laundry is folded. The itinerary for the big event coming up. The need to do EVERYTHING. Then, when we fall short, we beat the shit out of ourselves for not doing better, and wake up and do it all over again.
Here's a thought. If you want to control something, control the stuff that makes you feel alive. Control what you're putting in your body. Control what sets your soul on fire. Control throwing all the kids in the van and spending the day hiking or kayaking. Control calling up your bestie and setting a wine date. Control taking the time to care for yourself. Control making memories. Once you start doing that, things seem less out of control and you realize that you're falling in love with your life again.
We don't have to control everything to have the most amazing life ever. Think about this; Have you ever planned anything, down to the T, spent a good amount of time and a hell of a lot of energy only to have it not go exactly as you planned? Yeah, pretty much everything for me. And guess what, it was fine! Actually, most of the time, it ends up even better than you could have imagined! So just let it go, let it be. Don't add that extra stress. Pretty soon, that addiction becomes less and less and you find yourself with more time to do the things you love with the people you love, and be exactly who you were meant to be.