Updated: Sep 11, 2020
Do you ever find yourself stuck on some BS or drama? Are you still mad about something that happened years ago? Or do you get mad about things that are either out of your control, or don't really matter, or have absolutely nothing to do with you?
The answer is yes. You do. You totally do. Because we all do.
When something bothers you, what's the first thing you do? You get pissed, throw shit, blow up the phones of anyone who will listen, or post some indirect round-about quote or meme about that person or situation on Facebook. Then mull it over, again and again, making you even more pissed and want to talk about it even more. The next day and the next day and the day after that.
You can get pissed and throw shit! Do it! Not only is it therapeutic, it helps you to release that negative juju out into the universe. At that very point, IT'S NOT YOURS ANYMORE. This is the point where it should stop. But many of us carry it one step further. And talk about it to people other than ourselves. What that does, is puts that energy on someone else. Probably your bestie or your spouse or your mom. Take your pick. Because it's so much fun dragging the people that we love down to a level that they can level with us on. Well, congratulations. You just shitted up someone else's day. I completely understand the concept of talking your problems out to justify your feelings. But who are you talking to? The person responsible for these feelings? Start there! Or read on.
In place of talking about it to everyone else, here is what you can do. You can breathe. You can pray. You can meditate. You can read. You can go pick up garbage in the ditch. You can color. You can build something. You can work out. You can drive and jam out. You can spend time with a child. You can go for a walk. You can change your hair. You can write. You can do yard work. You can take pictures. You can apply essential oils to your entire life. You can do literally anything that brings you even the tiniest smidge of joy. Because once you start putting your energy into that, the bullshit subsides. It starts to fade away. It becomes less painful and more manageable, because you are taking the time to process it, so that you don't have to react. YOU DON'T HAVE TO REACT. Seriously, you don't. Pretty soon, you're not even pissed anymore. Whoa. Also, congrats. You deserve a beer. Call me crazy. But first, try it. And watch magic happen. I'm not a doctor or a scientist, but I've done this enough to KNOW that it works. And I do it all the time. I call it getting over myself.